Ndoa sio rahisi kama wengi wanavyo waza ,ukiona watu wamedumu ndani ya ndoa miaka 10, 15, na 30 pamoja basi ujue kuwa wamevumiliana wamejifunza na kujitoa kila moja kwa mwenzake sana.Kwa hiyo kuna mengi ya kujifunza kwa hao watu.
But
marriages don’t fail from big problems, at least not all the time. Very often,
people end up splitting over the small things, especially once the small things
add up.
With this in
mind, I asked around for advice, small ways that people can improve their love
and their marriage today. This doesn’t include therapy or major sucking up or
any major effort on the part of anyone. These are small things that can make a
big difference. So here are 10 important ways you can improve your marriage
RIGHT NOW. See below:
Apologize
when you are wrong: Forget pride. If you realize you are wrong in a fight, admit
it and say you are sorry. It will make a world of difference in terms of
staying close.
Imagine the
other person gone during a fight: There is no better way to stop a
fight than to imagine losing or missing the other person. That sadness? That
tightness in your chest? That’s the love you feel for them.
Laugh more: For me, this is the biggest secret
to 10 years of marriage. My husband and I crack each other up. We roll on the
floor laughing and genuinely enjoy each other’s company. This is what keeps us
strong.
Arrange
weekly meetings: If you have young kids and two careers, there is nothing
more important than having weekly “meetings.” It may not be romantic, but
neither is nagging, and this curbs that a lot. From a friend who has started
them: “It has been very helpful from a practical side of just getting through
everyday life as a team.” Amen.
Schedule
sex: It’s not
romantic, but in our busy lives, it’s necessary. Pencil that shite in, because
you know what’s less romantic? A sexless marriage.
Talk about
the little things: Talk about the big things, but also discuss the little
things. Talk and then talk some more. The more you talk, the more you learn.
Have your
own life: No one likes someone with no friends. So get hobbies. Get
friends. Get a life! Now! It will make your spouse appreciate you more.
Remember to
thank the other person: It’s true. However small it seems, remember to say thanks
for small things, even if they are expected. “Hey, thanks for making dinner tonight.”
It creates a lot of goodwill and helps each person feel appreciated.
Stop
yelling: No one is
suggesting you stop fighting. Some fights are needed. But stop yelling. And
name calling. And fighting dirty. Trust me.
Hold hands: Even when you are mad at each
other, just touch. Whether it’s in bed or out
of
bed. Sometimes the simple act of touching one another can help curb angry
feelings.
Hakuna maoni :
Chapisha Maoni